Assessing an aging parent’s most treasured possessions: Our family is in the process of the ultimate (and probably the last) downsize – moving my mom into a nursing home. Over the last four years, we have consolidated my parent’s possessions two other times: first, when we moved them from their town home to independent living and then from independent to assisted. They left most of the decision making up to me as to what was going with them, with the exception of a few key items that included my Mom’s curio cabinet full of collectibles. In the interim, my Dad has passed away, so there are some small reminders that she treasures like his bathrobe and slippers.
Currently, I am in an emotional knot! I am completely distraught with the responsibilty of moving my mother into a tiny space. WHAT CAN SHE BRING? There are two facets to this question, pragmatic and emotional. As I have mentioned, there is only one item in question. My mother’s treasured momentos sit in a curio cabinet that I know would bring her great comfort. I have been strongly advised, however, by the nursing home staff, that to bring such valuables would be a mistake. How do I tell this to my mother? How can we protect them if we decide to go against their advice?
Bigger problem: what can I bring to help my mother emotionally feel good other than this cabinet? How can I build an environment in a cell sized space that will bring her joy? HELP! Has anyone else had to do this??? ANY IDEAS, please share.I would love to hear how others have handled this situation!
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