Time Passes…..Life happens…..Distance separates…..Children grow up……
Jobs come and go. Love waxes and wanes. Men don’t do what they’re supposed to do…Hearts break. Parents die. Colleagues forget favors. Careers end…..
BUT…..Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach…
When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end…
Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you….or come in and carry you out. Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters….
Daughter-in-laws, sisters, sister-in-laws, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!
The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.
Does this sounds familiar? You are married and have 3 children. Two of your kids are teenagers. You have aging parents in their 80′s. Your mother lives in a Long Term Care facility after suffering a massive stroke. Your father, after 50 years of marriage, is now a bachelor living on his own. Your husband is a busy executive. You are a busy mom at home & at work. Your job is helping to figure out what’s next in life!
My mom spent the last few years of her life in a nursing home. She was content there in many ways, but I had a problem with it. I would go visit her and she would not be wearing her own clothes. It was distressing to me to see her in clothes that were not hers. Things obviously got mixed up in the wash, but it upset me. I learned that many things that upset me, did not upset her. I was suffering more than she was! I did learn to “let go” of the small stuff and focus on bigger issues like her safety and well-being which was being addressed at this home. It is difficult to see changes in your aging parents. I wanted my mom to act like she did when she was well and I had difficulty with her transition as she aged. If you have had a similar experience or thoughts about relating to a Mother with Alzheimer’s, can you share?
This Friday, at 8:45 am, is my father’s initial hour visit to set up the radiation schedule. The evaluation will take an hour and then the visits, to actually do radiation, will be shorter.
I haven’t talked to any doctors yet, just set up the first visit. It’s at Valley General Hospital, on the first floor of the north tower opposite the north parking garage.
The radiation appointments are EVERY DAY except holidays and weekends. None have been set up. There are times available between 8:30 am and 10 am and we don’t have to make the decision until the first appointment. The doctor has to see him to determine how much time for appointments, etc. We’ll know more then.
We need to figure out what time will work. Appointments everyday are not easy on any of us. With everyone’s work schedules & the grandchildren’s activities, I know each of you are busy. I would like to get together and meet as a family to see how to move forward.
I’m going to take him on Friday and if Sue wants to come also, that’s fine. It should be easy to get in and out of the garage. I’ve got the handicapped parking permit that I could leave with my father and he could bring it each day in case there is an open spot in front of the entry.
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