Month: August, 2012

welcome to girlfriends with aging parents

how do you find a competent, caring doctor for your elderly parents?

We are about to change my elderly parents primary physician. A geriatric internist, he is friendly but his follow-up is terrible. Medications that he has prescribed and need his approval for refill languish for weeks, somewhere in limbo, and require multiple calls to get filled. Each of my parents take nearly 20 pills apiece and feels that they are overmedicated. When they have asked him about this, he seems unfamiliar with what he has prescribed for them and states that he will taper them down and then does nothing. They feel that this doctor prescribes pills to mask aches and pains but does little to find the source. However, who is willing to take on new patients in their mid-80’s with numerous ailments, albeit age appropriate?

It is not news that our healthcare system is failing. HMO’s are on the lookout for healthy, profitable patients, according to doctors David Himmelstein and Steffie Woodhandler in “For Patients, Not for Profits”:

Not surprisingly, research shows high satisfaction and good outcomes for healthy HMO members. But even the best HMOs under treat the sick. HMO stroke patients get less rehabilitation and more often end up in nursing homes. Medicare HMO patients are denied needed home care. Depressed patients in HMOs are less likely to be diagnosed, get less treatment, and are more frequently disabled by their illness. Poor, sick patients have a 21% higher risk of dying in HMOs than in fee-for-service care.

How does one go about finding the increasingly rare, caring, responsible doctor willing to treat failing, elderly patients? Your feedback on your experiences would be really appreciated.

 

 

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elder law

On October 15, 2010, the Elder Law section of the Washington State Bar Association presented an award to Representative Jeannie Darneille (D) of the 27th District for her work to enact legislation to establish the Office of Public Guardianship.  The mission of the Office is to make guardianship services available to individuals who need them and are alone (without family members or friends to serve as volunteers) and poor (without the means to pay for needed services).  Many of these individuals are elderly and need a surrogate decision maker.  A guardian is appointed by the court to make either personal or financial decisions.

 

If you are a care-giver, you should be aware of The Elder Law section.  It focuses on legal issues that are pertinent to elders – including retirement issues, estate planning, powers of attorney, guardianship and other forms of substitute decision making, to private and long-term care, health care financing and elder abuse.  Go to www.wsba.org for more information or to find an Elder Law attorney through the public resources directory.

 

 

 

 

 

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a must have …. sense of humor …

SENIOR CITIZEN JOKE :

A little silver-haired lady calls her neighbor and says, “Please come over here and help me. I have a killer jigsaw puzzle, and I can’t figure out how to get started.”

Her neighbor asks, “What is it supposed to be when it’s finished?”

The little silver haired lady says, “According to the picture on the box, it’s a rooster.”

Her neighbor decides to go over and help with the puzzle.

She lets him in and shows him where she has the puzzle spread all over the table.

He studies the pieces for a moment, then looks at the box, then turns to her and says,

“First of all, no matter what we do, we’re not going to be able to assemble these pieces into anything resembling a rooster.”

He takes her hand and says, “Secondly, I want you to relax. Let’s have a nice cup of tea, and then,” he said with a deep sigh ………..

“Let’s put all the Corn Flakes back in the box.”

 

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treatment for osteoporosis a puzzle

PANIC!  I am a middle aged woman diagnosed with severe osteoporosis. My mother, who is in her mid-80’s, suffers from a very advanced form of the disease, where merely reaching for a dish or rolling over in bed can cause a fracture. I took Fosamax for seven years in tandem with calcium supplements, per my physician’s instructions, until medical findings revealed the drug could actually cause much more harm than good. At that point, my doctor and I agreed that I would try a year of just calcium pills and see if my baseline bone scan changed at all.

On May 23rd, a study was released in the journal HEART, stating that supplementary calcium may be bad for your heart and raise the risk of heart attacks. It showed an 86 percent increase in heart attacks among those who regularly took the supplements compared to those who didn’t take any.

New recommendations just set forth by the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force state supplements of Vitamin D alone, or with calcium, may not help prevent osteoporosis caused by bone fractures.

“There isn’t evidence to suggest that 400 IU of vitamin D plus 1,000 milligrams calcium can prevent fractures among postmenopausal women who do not live in assisted living or nursing home facilities,” says Task Force member Kirsten Bibbins-Domingo, MD. She is an associate professor of medicine at the University of California at San Francisco.

At this point I am not sure where to turn. None of these studies seem to address alternatives. Am I doing more harm to my body than good?

 

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breaking away as caregiver

I have worked as a Assisted Living Administrator for many years. I have seen it all! My first piece of advice is to understand, as our parents grow old, they grow even younger at a very fast rate. They revert back to not wanting to go any where with out mom (that has now became you). Basically, they are fearful of doing or being someplace and not having that trusted family member with them. For example, when they forget how to do simple things like fill out a check for a Dr. Office co-pay, they are uncertain & look for your help. Or getting on the facility van and then … what should they do? They will be thinking, “What if I don’t know when to get off the bus?”

If you have children, you will remember when you first put them out into the big world alone. You went with them as they first walked to school, you would come eat lunch with them because it was all too overwhelming at first. Yes, you even brought a set of clean clothes just in case they couldn’t make it to the bathroom in time.

Lord forbid as a grown-up (that has managed a whole lifetime successfully) would have a bowel accident in the dinning room of a assisted living facility with 80 other people watching. This is what is going on in your parents minds! You may not even know that Dad wipes the milk off Mom’s chin at the dinner table or that he cleans her up late into the evening because shortly after bedtime she can’t make it in time to the bathroom. Some things Dad may not share with you.

See the picture I’m painting? You are the only one at this time they trust to cover for them. So, like we did with our children, we break away slowly. This allows our parents to gain trust in the facility. Good idea to stop taking them in your car. Instead,  ride on the van with them a few times, but let the caregiver do the work, the transfers, help getting their coat on etc, etc.

Our seniors need to use what they have paid for. You can tell them, “Dad we are paying $150. a month because the facility has transportation for you. Then move it on to “You have a appointment, you ride in the van and I will be at the Dr. Office when you arrive”. Again, letting the caregiver do all the assistance. Just be with them. Get where I’m going with this? Do the same with the dining room, eat with them, and then slowly start backing off once you can see they are making friends. It’s a long road, but its one I have seen work many times. Blessings and praise to you for your heart of gold, and the willingness to ask for help. Anyone else there?

I have other tips on my site LaneSeniorLiving.com  written by: Tricia Pruen

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